" Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and wishing the other dies" - Author Unknown
In light of all that is going on in the world right now.. One of the words that a lot of people do not want to hear is Forgiveness. Though I am not here to touch on either covid or the injustice that is going on in the world right now .... I still want to talk about Forgiveness on a more personal level .
What is forgiveness ?
Google defines Forgiveness as the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, and overcomes negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance (however justified it might be).
This topic of forgiveness has been on my mind lately due to personal reasons.
I personally was and is still struggling with the concept of forgiveness. I have been going back and forth on this topic because though I have an idea of what it entails, I am not quite sure I understand it to its very core... if that makes sense....
As a christian , I am instructed to forgive an individual 70x7 times . What does that even mean ?
Do I keep letting them hurt me those number of times?
but the same bible gives me a parable and from there I draw my strength in learning more about forgiveness.
This is the parable of the unforgiving servant found in Matthew 18:21-35. To summarize , its basically talks about a servant who owes a king money and cant pay. He begs for mercy and his debt is forgiven. As the servant leaves , he sees another servant who owes him less than what he owed the king and demanded the servant pays or he sends him to jail. When the King hears about this, he sermons the servant back and punishes him as well . Just as he sent the other servant to jail until he pays, so will he also be sent to jail until he pays.
We all want to be forgiven , irrespective of how big or small our wrong doings are, but yet still we find it hard to forgive others. So sometimes, when others wrong me , I think to myself, " how would I want to be treated if it were me?". Dont get me wrong , it is hard because sometimes the offence done to you, you know you will never do that to another individual.
Dont you just hate that feeling you get in the pits of your stomach when you see the individual or even when their name is mentioned. How your blood boils and that sickening feeling that makes you plot a million and ten ways of insulting them or doing something to hurt them ? ( or am I alone in this )
Ye ... the more I think of it , the more I want to be free from it. Personally , I want to live a fulfilled life where others actions does not warrant my reaction . Simply put, if my reaction is going to affect my going to heaven if Christ was to come this very minute, its not worth it. For my sake, I've got to let it go . Not theirs, Mine !!
I hope this piece helps anyone dealing with forgiveness. It hurts , I know but its for your own good to let it go.
Do share some of your experiences. How did you resolve forgiveness in your life. I want to hear from you